The woman was left 'really angry' when she discovered her boyfriend's ex-partner had been invited to a stag do he was attending - and he tried to keep it a secret

Traditionally, stag nights and hen nights are held in the days before a wedding, and they usually involve a group of mates hitting the town for several drinks - with a reputation for things getting wildly out of hand.

But one woman has been left fuming at her boyfriend after he went out on his mate's stag do because he didn't tell her that his ex-girlfriend had been invited out with them.

The woman explained her boyfriend went out on Saturday and left her at home with their children, and only told her on Monday that two girls, including his former partner, were involved in the stag night - five days after he was first told they were invited on Thursday.

In a post on Mumsnet, the woman said: "I found out after my partner went on a stag do that two girls were [invited]... girls he knows well, in fact, one who he was with for a while when he was a lot younger - an ex.

"They're all mates from sixth form college 20 years ago. Somehow they still are all pretty 'close', in that they like to get together and 'party' quite a lot (he doesn't, but his mates do). Despite living in the same city, I've never got to know the girls. Probably partly me not really being interested, I must admit.

"I feel really angry about it … my partner wasn't going to tell me they were on it, he knew before but didn't tell me."

The mum admitted her boyfriend didn't plan the event so was unaware about his ex being invited until the Thursday before the big night out, but she's still miffed that she wasn't invited out with them - especially as other women were attending.

She added: "Also, I never get to spend a whole Saturday with him, without the kids … and yet behind my back this was exactly what he was doing with his ex. Fun activity to fun activity whilst merrily all getting trashed together (they get completely wasted).

"He didn't plan it - but his best mate did. Thanks, dude!

"My partner knew from at least Thursday that these girls were going to be there. If girls are invited, why wasn't I invited? I've been 'around' for nearly 20 years! Nope, they're the ones that got the special girl pass.

"I feel annoyed and frustrated at the pervading clique of this group. And for all the other reasons, I feel really disrespected."

The woman said she has other issues in her relationship with her partner, and feels that him spending time with his ex without telling her is just giving her more reasons to doubt him.

She said: "My partner and I have young kids, no family support, and from time to time really struggle and get right to the brink of splitting up (like now because of this latest issue). He pays me very little attention, always moaning and critical, and we have barely any affection. I do trust him as much as you can trust any partner, but I also know boundaries were probably pushed.

"When he decided to tell me on Monday about it, he was giving me massive emotional hugs which got too weird, as we never do that now. He left the stag do WhatsApp group on Sunday morning, and was quiet all day. He said he was trying to do all the right things, and I half believe him.

"I just can't get it out of my head. I wish his ex would just go away.

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courtesy of MIRROR

by ZAHNA EKLUND, AUDIENCE WRITER

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